Scott Miller
Perspectives Assistant
The New Jersey State Supreme Court recently ruled that gay couples have all the same legal rights as heterosexual couples under the state’s constitution and left it up to legislators to fully legalize same-sex marriage. This marks another important step in the battle for equality for same-sex marriages, joining the decision by Massachusetts’ Supreme Court to legalize same-sex marriage. However, the court did not fully sanction marriage, leaving room for improvement. Allowing the exclusion of homosexuals to continue is not acceptable.
It is a ridiculous notion that a demographic of our population should be subjected to this kind of exclusion and alienation, especially since that demographic has done nothing to deserve it. Homosexuals do not advocate for the harm of anyone, only the freedom to be themselves, to be able to celebrate their love equally, and enjoy the same legal rights as straight married couples. That is certainly not too much to ask.
Marriage cannot be described as a solely religious institution. Marriages are frequently performed at county courthouses. Therefore, homosexuals should not be discriminated against because of religious views. They should be allowed all the legal benefits, as well as the title of “married” in all arenas.
A popular idea perpetuated by opponents of same-sex marriage is that it is some how detrimental to society and the sanctity of marriage. That is not true. Same-sex marriage is about love and receiving the same basic legal rights as straight marriage affords.
If we are to condemn an act because of its supposed harm to society, why not outlaw divorce? It shows immaturity in making a choice of that magnitude and can end in bitter court battles that tie up the justice system.
If the government were to make divorce illegal, however, there would be riots. People would be protesting about their right to make their own decisions, and the the fact government has no place in telling them what to do, and who to marry.
That would be the appropriate response, as the government has no place in telling us how to live our personal lives according to their concept of “morality.” However, transition this scenario to same-sex marriage, and it is a different story. Then it becomes acceptable for the government to regulate the marriages of its citizens.
This is what is known as the double standard. It has been irrationally impressed upon many groups throughout history, including blacks, and women, and usually in the form of job discrimination and disenfranchisement. However, both of these groups have attained a level of equality in those arenas.
The ruling by the New Jersey Supreme Court is the first step in realizing the follies of “moral” legislation, and will eventually lead to equality. Historically, we know that the assault against gay marriage will not prevail. We should, therefore, stop fighting, not only a ridiculous battle, but a failing battle. We should recognize the coming change and foster it.
Excluding homosexuals from marriage is ridiculous. It is unprovoked and groundless because it has no proof to back its claims. It is especially ridiculous when the government is sanctioning the exclusions through state amendments and proposed federal amendments. The government’s job is to protect its citizens from harm, not legislate what is considered to be moral but restrains one-tenth of the population from starting families.
Alienated people will eventually defeat the double standard that haunted them. Homosexuals are no different. The New Jersey case reinforces that by making concessions to same-sex partners, even if it does not yet sanction marriage. This concession is only the beginning of equality for same-sex marriage proponents.
Do not fight the new social changes. Embrace them.
11-02-2006