CONNIE HORTON
Counseling Center
“Senior angst,” anxiety regarding the future after university life, is common at this time of year among graduating seniors, including those at Pepperdine. Many seniors are asking themselves (and their friends, counselors, faculty and staff) “What will I do?” “Where will I live?” “How will I make it without my Pepperdine friends?” “Can I really support myself?” and other worry-filled questions.
Having a healthy perspective is helpful in this exciting, yet stressful, time and might include the following:
1) Recognizing that the transition from college is a stressful life event. Although graduating from college is a positive, intentional accomplishment, the experience is still stressful. Like many of the most stressful life events, (e.g., getting married, buying a home, having a baby), this is a good and exciting milestone. At the same time, these stressful times are adjustments that tax coping resources and challenge physical and mental health. Self-care is especially critical.
2) Remembering past, successful transitions. Life is full of transitions. Ironically, students most afraid to leave the familiar Pepperdine environment are probably those who had a difficult time leaving home and high school friends and coming to Pepperdine. Those students may do well to remember that they not only survived that transition but thrived at Pepperdine, as evidenced by their reluctance to leave. Although the present transition seems overwhelming, most students are ready for this challenge, and soon, this transition, too, will be a distant memory as life stabilizes and new relationships are established.
3) Focus on what never changes. Students at Pepperdine have been given opportunities to master academics and prepare intellectually for the next phase of life but also to develop spiritually. Now is the first post-college opportunity to integrate this spiritual development into post-college life. Praying and meditating on Scriptures such as those regarding God’s unchanging nature and His desire to prosper and protect His children may be grounding. Further, finding a church community may be a significant first step in establishing new relationships. Additionally, a church may provide opportunities to continue using their gifts to serve others, as many have done during their time at Pepperdine. Interestingly, when feeling overwhelmed, putting a portion of one’s energy and focus on others’ needs through volunteering can be a vital balancing activity.
4) Rely on social support. The old children’s song, “Make new friends, but keep the old” is actually wise advice. During this time of transition, keeping in touch with family and Pepperdine friends may be crucial. At the same time, being open to new relationships is also valuable. A healthy support network includes friends in the immediate environment, for in-person conversations and experiences. Although maintaining significant, established relationships is of great value, being mindful about how much time is being spent with old friends via phone, IMing or text messaging compared to time spent visiting with a new neighbor or going out with new colleagues at work may also be informative. Social support is a primary factor in coping with any stressor.
5) Be patient. Students should take this transition one step at a time, remembering that the friendships, sense of familiarity, community and comfort at Pepperdine also took time to establish. Meanwhile, students are encouraged to enjoy these final days at Pepperdine and the exciting parts of graduation.
Seniors are welcome to call the Counseling Center at ext. 4210 if they would like an individual appointment.
04-13-2006
