Growing up we were all force-fed the Golden Rule so many times that we probably knew it better than our first names. But as guys get older our Golden Rule begins to shift a bit. From “Treat others as you would like to be treated our rule evolves into the eloquently stated, Bros before hoes.” It is the most highly-revered commandment in the Little Black Book of Man Law. Such a law is mandatory for guys to abide by. Infractions include hanging out with a girl on a guy’s night or dating a girl one of his friends had anything as little as a crush on. Such actions are “no-nos” and are violations of man law.
With Pepperdine being such a small campus it’s not uncommon to feel as though everyone knows each other. So if there is a cute girl a guy is interested in he has to do a little research before perusing her. First of all he needs to know if any of his friends – or friends of friends – have had a “thing” for her at one point. If such history is unveiled -and chances are that’s the case with so few students on campus – it is written deep within our genetic bylaws to move on.
However if there was never a previous connection the next obstacle is getting to know her. Yeah it sounds simple but putting ourselves in such a vulnerable position and dedicating that sort of energy into something so new is extremely nerve-wracking.
On top of all that there is a very delicate line drawn between showing interest and being a “creeper.” Luckily Facebook has given us a small window to establish some sort of communication without coming on too strong. After the friend invite is sent casual goofy messages and wall posts are soon to follow. Eventually enough courage is built up to ask her for her number marking the first major step.
Texting may be a guy’s modern-day key to early communication development. It allows us to casually chat and feel out the situation before making any more steps. Once a texting relationship has been established a casual date can be arranged or maybe a guy and a girl can meet up at a party.
If everything is running smoothly at this point then comes the hurdle of actually going on dates. This is the time we feel the most pressure to show who we are. It is no secret that the bar is pretty high as far as what to do on a date especially at Pepperdine where half of the campus rolls around in the newest BMW. Come on girls let’s keep it real. Many of you claim not to care whether or not a guy has money but face it: When someone takes you out to a five-star restaurant and you find yourself in downtown Hollywood sitting front row at the “Wicked” premier it is hard not to be wooed. In the meantime I have to save up just so my date is not limited to the Dollar Menu. That’s not to say our dates cannot be equally as fun but those who sneak bagels out of the caf for dinner later are pressured to be more creative with their date-planning repertoire.
So ladies guys really put a lot of time and energy into pursuing the one they are truly interested in. If you are talking to a guy who doesn’t seem very responsive or if it feels like he is just going along for the ride I’m sorry to break the news: He’s just not that into you.